Pathetic!!

My blogs recently have been about my strugglings and my challenges and how I am dealing with them, but today this is a totally different situation. Its about us women and what we expect from men.

I am 27, I believe I am attractive, college educated, going back to school to better myself, currently unemployed but qualified for almost anything, Not necessarily a runway model, but for a plus size girl or for someone who is on the border of plus size, I think I carry myself well. I was brought up well, with good morals and I believe that any man who I may come across will be more than happy with what I bring to the table. However I am still single. Some days its by choice, other days, I just can't seem to get them to like me. Someone may call me picky, others may say I just deserve the best...Me? I think I just have a lot more work to do on myself before I can honestly go to a man and expect him to offer me more than I can offer him. However, do I think I am desperate, do i hear my biological clock ticking and ready to jump the broom? Some days I wont lie, I do feel like I am closing drawing near my expiration date, other days I am like whatever! I am young, I haven't lived enough and until i can say I have done it all I am not ready to settle down.

Reason for my banter? Well every woman is different, Some women strongly believe they have to settle down and get the ball rolling and thus if it means jumping on the next guy that walks their way then so be it. Some people dont take to rejection well and will do everything in their power to keep that man who is just itching to go. I personally think the latter woman is pathetic. I believe every woman should realise their worth and not settle for less. If a guy clearly has told you he is not interested in you and you should keep it moving then do exactly that! Trying to sit back and figure out ways to keep him is dumb... Cus clearly even if you succeed in keeping that man, he is going to make your life a living hell.

The most pathetic woman in my book is the woman who delibrately gets pregnant thinking that bringing a child into the world will keep the man. Yes we all joke around and say we would have a particular celebrities baby because he looks good but honestly most of us will not do that if the opportunity came our way. So those who do it why? Having a baby by a man who does not want you will not keep him in your life...yes he may stick around just to be an honorable man but will he be yours? Physically yes! mentally, spiritually hell no!! My question however is this, why would you want to have a baby by a man who doesnt want you? Why would you lie to him and tell him you are on birth control and then suddenly become pregnant?

Okay so it seems like the woman are to blame in this blog and quite frankly no, they are not the only ones to blame, It takes two so clearly the man is at fault as well. Fellas, I know some of you can't live without pussy. Some of you can smell pussy from miles away and find your way there but honestly and truly I do not care how weak you are when it comes to self control, If you are with a woman and you no longer want to be with her. I do not care if she ends up walking across the room every night butt ass naked. Resist yourself, pack up your bags and leave! If you choose to stay, you have no right and I mean absolutely no right to get up the next day, tell her she trapped you, demand an abortion or even worse tell her you want nothing to do with the child. If you lay your bed be prepared to lie in it, no matter the circumstances! I do not care what you have to say, Unless you were raped by her or drugged and have no idea how she managed to get you in bed, you have no excuse for not wanting to be around. It is also your responsibility to make sure there are no accidents. Yes the woman lied to you and told you she was on birth control but if you choose to lie with a woman you really dont want to be with and you are with her just for the purposes of fucking then my dear thats your fault!

So my point here today is, This whole bullshit of women having babies for men just to trap them is pathetic! It's sad! And quite frankly women like that I have no sympathy for them. If you do not believe you deserve better then thats your problem. Yes it might be a self esteem issue but at the end of the day its on you to make sure mistakes like this dont happen. I have been rejected several times, I have sat around and prayed that guy I am feening for will feen for me too however, when i get the boot and I am told no, its no! I keep it moving. Most times, I tell myself the guy is absolutely insane and has no idea what he has missed out on and I believe that shit! So if you can't do the same and you wish to stick around and force a man to be with you, then thats your problem but keep the babies out of it! Fellas if you know you dont want to be with that female, then pack your shit and leave, dont give her any excuse to believe there is hope! The biggest shit i have heard is "Ohh she is going through a rough patch, this is not the time for me to break up with her" Bullshit, you staying in her life when clearly you want out is going to make things rougher when things do get better because she is going to believe you love her and want to be with her and then when things do get better she is going to suddenly break down even further knowing you were with her only because you felt sorry for her. A woman will deal with any situation if she really wants to.